Delayed Ejaculation or ED is becoming more and more a problem for men growing up through the age of the Internet where there is easy access to unlimited porn. Clinically, delayed ejaculation is the inability to ejaculate or difficulty in achieving orgasm despite the presence of normal sexual desire and sexual stimulation.
Ok guys here is the rub. Delayed Ejaculation is, in the absence of underlying medical conditions, a learned or conditioned response. Through masturbation and porn, many guys have “conditioned themselves” to respond to specific stimulation. Certain images arouse them and only certain penile stimulation from their auto-erotic sessions create enough of the correct sensations to achieve orgasm. Sensations that cannot be duplicated orally, vaginally or through anal such as grip, motions and extra digital stimulations, (how you use your fingers during masturbation) that are created by you.
On average a male can achieve orgasm orally, vaginally or through anal within five to 8 minutes. Men with this condition may take up to 45 minutes and require their own manual intervention to bring themselves to completion. Some men find that more often than not, they do not achieve orgasm at all. It is not hard to imagine the emotional implications this can have on men and their partners.
How did you get this way? What is conditioned response? Many of you took basic psychology in high school or college and you became aware of Dr. Ivan Pavlov and his experiments in classical conditioning, initially experimenting with dogs. Essentially, dogs will salivate at the sight of food. What the doctor did was ring a bell every time he brought food to the dog. Eventually the dog associated the sound with food, so when the bell rang, the dog salivated as if there was food. Because many young men turn to porn and masturbation as a way of “satisfying urges”, you begin to condition yourself to your manual stimulation and internet imagery, so when the real opportunity comes, your body no longer responds they way it should because you have taught it to respond to other stimulations.
How do you fix this? There is no easy cure, no pill or physio-therapy to correct this. There are therapeutic strategies to help you cope and try to relearn more normal function. Before considering anything, you should first consult with your medical practitioner to rule out conditions from prostrate issues, low hormone production, blockages or physiological based disorders. Once these are ruled out, cognitive modification therapy holds the best strategy for minimizing the situation. These strategies may include hypnotherapy as well reconditioning exercises. The key to the success is to have an understanding and supportive partner.
For many a young man, this may not be practical. Our advice, (this is non-medical), is if you do need to masturbate – use a masturbation toy that simulates vaginal sensations. Non-motorized toys such as the Fleshlight – visit them at: www.fleshlight.com. Remember, if you are experiencing troubles ejaculating, speak to your doctor as soon as possible – not knowing and not taking action to correct this will guarantee you many a frustrating and unfulfilling encounter.