Boot Blacking

Recently I attended a fetish workshop where the topics featured a range of  interests. On which caught me attention was “boot blacking”. This to me was an excellent example of a D/s situation where in the Dominant has his/her boot cleaned and polished while worn, by a submissive. The object of the fetish, for the submissive are the boots and the Dominant of course enjoys the voyeuristic appeal of the submissive enjoying the object of fetish. The encounter although initiated by the “boot blacking”, can have endless possibilities at the pleasure of the Dominant.

In adapting this to my own personal situation, I first trained my submissive how I wanted her to clean and polish by dress boots (instructions later in the article).

We home as usual after a nice Sunday brunch and after entering the house I ordered her to kneel. I pulled up a chair sat down and stretched out presenting her with my soiled boots (still on). Prior to this, I had left a bucket, cleaning cloth and brushes for her, so she knew what her task was to be. For several minutes she washed and cleaned my boots and the soles so we could go into the living room (without tracking in street soil). Once there, I sat on the couch and ordered her to get the polish kit.

She arrived with her kit and I instructed her to set it down first and undress to her panties, then to kneel and begin polishing my boots. I watched as she placed my booted foot on her thigh and began applying the polish to one and then the second boot. She then took the first boot back on to her lap and started to shine the boot. I had instructed her on spit polishing, which she did well on both toes of the boot.

Standing up, she knew her task was to know complete the polishing of the heel and back to the boots. I watched as she crawled around on the floor at my feet to complete this task. Once done, I sat back down to let her inspect her work. I watched as she licked the toe of the boot to apply more spit, allowing her to buff and shine to perfection. For me this was all very erotic, to watch as she showed to me her complete submission in cleaning and polishing and crawling around my feet on the floor ensuring a complete shine and polish, ready for my inspection…

This was simply my adaptation to what was explained as a ritual sometimes practiced by “leather men and their boys”. From experiencing this for myself, the control aspect was exhilarating. The presenter also discussed safe shoe polishes for such intimate play and strongly advised against anything with harsh chemicals or silicone.

I chose to use very basic natural products, beeswax and mink oil. Beeswax is a natural ingredient with many purposes. It is used to make many cosmetic products such as lipstick and lip balm, and it is also used to polish and shine leather products like shoes and jackets. Applying beeswax to leather shoes removes stains caused by water, dirt and salt, and it also improves the quality of the leather. Polishing with beeswax will also make the leather shiny, waterproof and prevents cracks from forming.

Mink oil protects leather boots from moisture, salt and other things that can damage them. It also softens the leather, making boots more comfortable to wear. Mink oil is obtained from the fatty hide of a mink and sold to condition boots. Some mink oil products are mixed with beeswax, which adds to the protection of the leather.

To polish using beeswax you will need a soft cloth and a polishing cloth

1. Clean your leather boots with mild soap and water to remove surface dust and dirt.
2. Take a quarter-sized amount of beeswax and begin polishing your shoes with your fingers.
3. Cover the entire boot with the beeswax, rubbing deeply into the leather.
4. Take a soft washcloth or small terry cloth towel and use it to buff and shine the surface of the boot.
5. Allow the beeswax to absorb into the leather for a few hours before wearing them.
6. Add a second layer of beeswax between the sole and the upper portion of the boot if you live in a cold area and need extra waterproofing.

To polish using mink oil, you will need a hair dryer, soft cloths and a polishing cloth.

1. Warm the boots with a hair dryer, or set them or over a heat vent for a few minutes. Heating the leather will help it absorb the oil.
2. Spread the cloth over your fingers, and use them to scoop out enough of the mink oil paste to cover your fingers from the first knuckle to the tips. Rub the mink oil into the boots until it turns clear and begins to melt into the leather.
3. Repeat step two, conditioning your boots one section at a time, until both boots have been covered with the paste.
4. Wipe off any paste that got on the laces or soles of the boots.
5. Allow the boots to dry overnight, and apply a second coat of mink oil following the directions above.

Mink oil may cause some leather to become slightly darker. To apply the mink oil, a chamois cloth works well, or simply use a scrap of flannel from an old shirt. Paper towels will work if that’s all you have. It will not damage non-leather parts of your boots, so there’s no need to be too careful about the application. Reapply the mink oil every few months to keep your boots protected.

Mink oil can also be used to condition other leather so the possibilities can be endless and pleasurable. In this case I was thinking of having her polish my leather jock strap while wearing it.

Using natural products (provided there is no allergy to them), allowed my sub to use her body parts as part of the polishing ritual while being safe. Remember the basis of this scene is the boot or foot worship and is built around the task of cleaning and polishing boots. You as the Dominant control the scene and you as a submissive have plenty of opportunity to be creative in how you choose to use you body to perform this task.

Code d’ Odalisque

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Recently I discovered a new variation on the Master/slave or the D/s theme of which I am both fascinated with and practice. It is “Code d’ Odalisque”, which is a system of sexual submission which I am more inclined to practice than the typical BDSM themes. I wanted to share with readers of ViceNews.ca and I have included two well prepared website links to this topic.

Much of the research has been done and explained so what this article is, is more of a short commentary, with links to articles which better explain the “Code d’ Odalisque”. The following passage comes from the site:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:CoderCat and is written by Coder Cat whose account of “Code d’ Odalisque” is very thoughtfully written.

“Code d’ Odalisque is a genre or style of non-violent consensual slave play engaged in by willing adult men and women. It is a modern revival of aspects of the historical institution of odalisque (female sexual servant) in a consensual form. Play is guided by a written code of rules, etiquette and protocols. The genre or style is an alternative sub-culture within the broader BDSM community; play includes aspects of bondage and discipline, dominance and submission but not sado-masochism. The use of pain and degradation is forbidden under the Code. The values of the Code are hedonistic and pleasure-oriented combining exotic elements from Turkish/Persian erotic culture with modern, Western hardcore tastes. The structure of play is based upon the relationship between a male Slavekeeper and a female slave. Play is essentially heterosexual in character. ”

In her article, she references the code, which was compiled and published by ” the Guild of the Black Pearl” and is available for download in its entirety here: http://www.aramisduval.com/mainsite/images/stories/easternimagery/code.pdf

Though the code asserts non-sadomasochitic themes and practice, I have adopted to this, elements of corporal punishment. To reconcile this to the code, I use this as an element of sensation for pleasure then a physical means to assert dominance. The reason behind this deviation is for the cockslave’ benefit. That is to provide the experience of “sub space”. The euphoria submissives in my service, experience during and after an intense spanking. During these sessions, because of the spanking, their bodies release endorphins and adrenaline.The result of this hormonal cocktail combined with the imagery and context of submission creates the experience termed “sub space”.

You will find many references and websites talking about “Code d’ Odalisque”, however, on review, the two provided offer the most clearly defined explinations. To summarize my thoughts on the differences between BDSM as I used to practice verses “Code d’ Odalisque”, the central theme of “pain is pleasure” is now replaced with “pleasure in service”. In both cases though the basics of consensual, sane and safe is always the rule.

Spicing Things Up – the Joy of Figging

Fetish play opens the realm of the sexual experience to new sensations and emotions through fantasy, the mutual acceptance of a situation, (role play), ritual and the use of non-traditional items as props or sexual implements. A sensation technique taken from Victorian times has its roots in in horse trading. This technique, called figging, was used to make tired, old horses appear spry and energetic. Ginger root was used and was peeled back, exposing the fleshy part of the root, then it was inserted into the horse’s anus. The ginger, a mild irritant, caused the horses to appear more energetic as it would prance around with it’s tail raised. The mild burning sensation was short lived and quickly dissipated on removal, causing no lasting effects.

Also referred to as “gingering”, figging became popular in Victorian times as a part of corporal punishment. Where, when the master of the household wished to increase the torment of a young woman in his charge, the fig was used in conjunction with spanking. Once inserted, the natural tendency would be for the sphincter muscle to contract around the fig, increasing the “burning” sensation. The hapless young woman would do everything in her power to remain relaxed to minimize the fig’s effect, however in doing so she would also relax the muscles in her bottom making her spanking all the the more intense. Fast forward to today and in the context of fetish play, you have the mental aspects of humiliation and submission, as well, the sensations of the spanking and the “ginger effect”.

First, before considering incorporating ginger into your play, ensure your playmate is not allergic to ginger! When selecting ginger roots, choose fresh ginger, although older roots are more potent, they are not as succulent or juicy making insertion difficult. Do not use lubricant as it will coat the root minimizing or blocking the effect. To aid in insertion, simply moisten the root in room temperature water.

When preparing your fig, select a piece of ginger approx 3-4 inches in length and 2-3 inches round. You simply begin by peeling off the “skin” of the root. Once removed, you will find the root fiberous and firm. Carefully carve the root into the shape of a butt plug. This shape will hold your fig in place once inserted. I usually leave a short length after the collar to make it easy to manipulate and to remove. If you do wish to “develop” the potency of your fig, once prepared in plastic wrap and age it several days. Once again to aid in insertion, simply moisten in room temperature water.

Ginger root effect is intense but short lived once removed. It is also ideal as a stand alone sensation and can lead to many interesting and possibly memorable scenes. Have fun and play safe!

BDSM Tips for Beginners

Written by: Lady Green and Jay Wiseman
ORIGINAL WEBSITE: http://www.houseofdesade.org

Note: Greenery Press publishes many educational non-fiction works dealing with BDSM and other areas of sexuality. Several new titles are published each year. For more info, e-mail a catalog request to verdant@crl.com, send a self-addressed, stamped envelope to Greenery Press, 3739 Balboa # 195, San Francisco, CA 94121 or go to Greenery Press

BDSM is one of several overall names given to a collection of behaviors that involve bondage, spanking, domination, and other activities that are done in a safe, consensual, non-abusive manner and in an erotic context. BDSM is a form of erotic play that involves significant physical and emotional risks, and thus requires instruction in order to do so with reasonable safety. Accordingly, we make the following recommendations for beginners. Please understand that the tips below do not provide, nor are they meant to provide, complete instruction.

1. Do BDSM only with people you know well and are on good terms with, and when both of you are in a good mood. Trying to do it with strangers, or when either of you is tired or upset, dramatically increases the degree of risk. Avoid significant use of intoxicants. If you’re not in condition to drive, you’re not in condition to do BDSM.

2. Keep “reality” out of it. Unless both of you specifically agree to it ahead of time, BDSM play is not a proper occasion to “punish” someone for a “real world” offense. Unpaid parking tickets, dirty dishes left in the sink, and so forth get handled outside the BDSM play.

3. The more empathy you have, the better you’ll be at this. If you reasonably and safely can, experience something yourself before you do it to another person.

4. Prepare for emergencies. Have needed supplies close by, including a first aid kit, a fire extinguisher, and flashlights. Take training in First Aid and CPR at least once a year.

5. Play with a “silent alarm” in place. When you play with somebody new in private, tell a trusted friend where you’ll be and who you’ll be with. Make sure, diplomatically, that you tell your prospective partner ahead of time that you will be doing this, and encourage him or her to do the same.

6. Negotiate what you’ll do ahead of time. This is not the time to have a mismatch of expectations. Handle such matters as sexual behavior, safer sex precautions, type and degree of bondage, physical and emotional limits, and so forth before you play. Stay within these limits while you play. If your session goes well, there’s always next time. Check in with each other afterwards, perhaps the next day. Discuss what did and what didn’t work, and what you might do next time.

7. Agree upon a safeword or two. These are special phrases used to indicate that the activity “really” needs to be slowed, changed, or stopped. Refusal to honor a safeword is very serious misconduct; it can even be a crime.

8. It’s a good idea for the dominant to “check in” with the submissive several times during the session. (Sometimes submissives find it difficult to use their safewords, even when they should.) One good non-verbal check-in is for the dominant to give the submissive’s hand two light but firm squeezes. If the dominant gets two squeezes back, it means that the submissive is basically all right.

9. Avoid toys that have sharp edges or corners. Instruments used for spanking, whipping, and so forth should be carefully rounded off.

10. Start lightly and build slowly. A too-rapid increase in the physical or emotional intensity of the play is the direct cause of many problems.

11. The submissive can use the “one to ten” technique to indicate they’re ready to feel a paddle or whip stroke, and its intensity. “One” is a feather-light touch; “ten” is a full-power stroke.

12. As a rule, strokes from whips and paddles are delivered to fleshy, muscled body areas such as the lower buttocks and the “lower half of the upper half” of the back. It’s very dangerous to strike your partner over their kidneys, liver, spleen, or tailbone.

13. Use only soft, plain paraffin candles for hot wax play. Harder candles, such as beeswax candles, have a melting point high enough to cause burns.

14. Spring-loaded wooden clothespins can work well as erotic clamps on the nipples, the genitals, and other locations. Various clamps found in office supply stores can also work well. Keep in mind that clamping an area shuts off its circulation. Experts vary regarding how long clamps can be left on, but most express their opinions in terms of minutes. Clamps hurt most when coming off. Self-experimentation is recommended here.

15. Do not attempt to do piercings or other activities that involve breaking the skin unless you have studied under, or are being supervised by, an knowledgeable individual.

16. Bondage creates dangerous vulnerability. We recommend that you let someone tie you up, blindfold you, or gag you only after you have first done at least two successful BDSM scenes with them that involved no bondage.

17. There is never any need to tie some part of your partner’s body so tightly that it “goes to sleep.” If this happens, loosen the bondage.

18. Do not leave a bound person alone. As a general rule, stay as close to a bound person as you would to an infant left in your care. (If you gag them, stay even closer.)

19. Another general rule is that you should be able to free a bound person within one minute of an emergency occurs, even if they have fainted. Wise BDSM players keep special “paramedic scissors” or similar items handy to help with this.

20. We advise caution when playing with any form of self-bondage. See point # 18 above.

21. After extensive medical consultation, we have been unable to discover any form of suffocation or strangulation play that is not unpredictably life-threatening.

Where to Learn More:

There is much more to be learned. We strongly suggest that you contact your local BDSM club for further instruction. The “thrive” “LeatheronQ” areas on AOL have much to recommend them. If you have access to the internet, we recommend that you look over the soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm, soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm.femdom, and soc.sexuality spanking newsgroups. A web search on the phrase bdsm will yield almost too much information.

The following books are some, but not all, of those that contain good introductory material regarding BDSM:

“Learning the Ropes” by Race Bannon
“Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns” by Philip Miller and Molly Devon
“Sensuous Magic” by Pat Califia
“SM 101: A Realistic Introduction” by Jay Wiseman
“Safe, Sane, Consensual, and Fun” by John Warren
“Consensual Sadomasochism” by William Henkin and Sybil Holiday
“The Sexually Dominant Woman: A Workbook for Nervous Beginners” by Lady Green

Erotic Spankings…

I recently posed this question to some of my kinkier lady friends, “Why do you enjoy spankings as part of your foreplay?” I got many answers from them, but this answer seemed to sum up all of what these ladies were telling me…

 

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“why i like spankings… well they turn me on, for me the pain is pleasure, it is a type of foreplay… i really like the whole ritual of spankings, for me it is very erotic very much the start of the turn on… it brings blood rushing to the surface leaving my skin more sensitive and responsive to other touches… it is the release of endorphins that eventually leave a calming and relaxed feeling… yes spanking hurt a lot but it seems the more i get, the more i want…it is also about the feelings, naughty girls get spanked… it is a mixture of being ashamed about having my bottom spanked and guilt if i actual did something bad; then the feeling of submission for knowing that even though at that moment i want relief of it stopping it isn’t my choice how many swats i get or what tool/toy is being used… then when it is over there is generally the gentle caresses and soothing effect of having my hot bottom rubbed (or feeling of forgiveness if bad)… sometimes i cry with them which allows for a whole different release of stresses and emotions needing to be released a type of cleansing… so with the mixture of all the feeling and the endorphins leave me with a very comforting high…”

 

I went further and researched online by googling “why women like spankings?” Hundreds of spanking sites came up all explaining part of what my friend told me… From reviewing many of the sites, I have come to the conclusion that simply put, erotic spankings are great foreplay and can really set the mood for role play or for fetish. As much as it is physical stimulation, it provides mental stimulation and can be the basis or the start of a very hot and erotic playtime…. I will review more sites and interviews and update this story soon.

An interesting spanking site: wwww.spanking.com